Are You Spiritually Disabled?

are you spiritually disabled?

I’m spiritually disabled at times.

I don’t know if this allows me a special parking spot at my local church; but I am. Slouched in worry I can be a misguided soul, feverishly trying to run away from my bookish need to know all the answers. One of my toughest lessons in recovery has been that learning to let go is not performed from your head. It’s ingrained from repetitive, vulnerable actions of the heart!

My emotional reaction too many things is fidgety and seems futile in the moment. It’s laced with fear, anxiety and mistrust. And at the opposite end of my outfield it can be covered with deep love, passion and […]

Addict Behavior: What To Watch Out For

Behavior Changes To Watch Out For

If you are suspicious that someone you know or love is using, the most telling sign of that is their behavior.

When potential addicts begin crossing that imaginary line into full blown addiction, there are a lot of sudden changes in behavior to look out for. While some changes in behavior may be very obvious, others can be a bit more subliminal.

We do not recommend spying or snooping, most of the time addiction will rear its ugly head without invading someone’s privacy. With that being said, we would never tell you what to do within your own family.

Regardless, if you have your suspicions then we have put together some […]

The Ultimate High

Helping Others Is The Ultimate High

It has been thirteen years.

I wasn’t too sure what I would feel about this moment. I stayed awake restless the night before.  I tossed and turned, anxious, like it was really the first day of school. I couldn’t help to think whether or not I would recognize my old teachers, recall those used to be familiar classrooms, or even remember those favorite moments that we all tend to hold onto.

Do you remember those times when we used to walk everywhere before we had our license?  Do you remember kick-the-can? How about all those times we got together to hang out downtown at the coffee shop, grab a pizza from […]

5 Daily Inventory Questions That Will Keep You Sober

Stay Sober With Daily Inventory

After some time passes, it is easy to go stuck on auto pilot.

I do it all the time. I go about my business. I am focused on my daily tasks and not putting enough attention into my recovery. A few days or maybe a week will go by and all of the sudden I am feeling uncomfortable and I can’t figure out why.

As always, the inevitable truth hits me. I realize that I am not taking care of myself the way I should be.

I am not keeping a daily inventory.

It is different for us in recovery. We have an added responsibility to keep a daily inventory and try […]

Rule Number 62 – Don’t Take Yourself So Damn Seriously

rule number 62 dont take yourself so damn seriously

It is often said that the program is “spiritual and not religious.”

That can be pretty confusing, especially to a new comer. At first glance, spirituality and religion seem to be much in the same.

However, there are a few key differences between the two.

These differences are important because being closed minded towards living a spiritual life could potentially keep someone sick. This is a common mis conception and a common struggle that people deal with when trying to get sober.

This week we have a panel discussion. We dive into the concept of spirituality vs religion and give our own viewpoints to what the difference is and […]

Getting Control of Your Lesser Addictions

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Not all addiction are chemical.

Addiction is acting on behaviors or impulsive behaviors that lead to an immediate gratification and rewarding stimuli.

At the root of it, addiction isn’t about drugs or alcohol. It is about behavior that leads to immediate satisfaction.

The common theme with addiction is that there is a physical component and a mental component.

The physical addiction includes the act. The ritual. The habits.

The mental component consists of the rush, the mental obsession, and the dopamine rush that we feel. When we are searching for that rush is a good sign that a line is being crossed.

In this week’s episode, I will discuss…

  • Some of the […]

Inspirational Quotes About Sobriety

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I recently came across a website called Recovery Reflections.

This website has lots of user submitted quotes that come from the heart. When most of us think of quotes we think of the cliche one liners that float around the rooms of 12 step fellowships.

The quotes from this website come from people in recovery.

I go over lots of these quotes and explain what they mean to me and how they can help you stay sober.

Interview With Jessica

Jessica is 23 years old. She is from Colorado. She has been sober since May 21st, 2015.

Jessica is still new in recovery, but she speaks about how […]

What The Eyes Say About The Drugs Someone Is On

Your Eyes On Drugs

It is often said that they eyes are the window to the soul.

Can the eyes tell us even more than that? Eye contact alone can transmit a multitude of messages and communications from one person to another. When someone is under the influence of a drug, it’s not surprising that the effects can usually be seen in the eyes as well.

With help from Holistic Recovery Center and also Dream Center for recovery, we put together a visual portrait of what the eyes can tell us when someone is under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Sometimes it is important to know what to look for. Many drug will have […]

Ned’s Journey Of War, PTSD and Recovery

war addiction and ptsd.

When I first met Nez, he shook my hand with a firm grip and looked me dead in the eye. Right then I knew he was a real man. The kind of man that would lay down his life for you.

Nez joined the US Army at the young age of 21, just before the attacks on September 11th. Shortly after, he was shipped off to fight a war in Afghanistan that he and many others knew little about. Nez was a Paratrooper. He jumped out of planes and landed in hostile territory ready to fight.

Transitioning back into civilian life was a different story. Nez suffered from PTSD, and was trying to […]

Interview With Tim Stoddart – Founder of Sober Nation

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Tim Stoddart is the co-founder and current president of Sober Nation. Tim has been in recovery for 5 and a half years and has a great story to tell.

It was recovery that empowered Tim to live the life he had always dreamed of. After the success of Sober Nation, Tim went on to build Sober Nation Clothing, as well as other personal projects such as

Tim is a big believer in the power of thought, positive living, health and kindness.

Tim is from Philadelphia and started experimenting with drugs at a young age. An admitted adrenaline junky, Tim has found new and healthier ways to […]

Sex, Dating and Relationships in Sobriety

x, dating and relationships in sobriety Recovery Elevator Episode 37

Relationships in early recovery are dangerous.

When I first got my sponsor, he told me that I shouldn’t get into a relationship until my 9th step.

I hated the idea at first, but I made a commitment to my sponsor. At the time, I had been dating and I had to sit some people down and let them know what I was doing and why I wasn’t able to commit to a relationship. I’ll tell you more about that in this episode.

The Trouble With Loneliness

The reason why it is so hard for newly recovering addicts is because when we get sober, we are craving to fill […]

Lindsey McKeon Talks Drugs, Religion and Materialism

Lindsey McKeon Drugs, Religion and Materialism

Lindsey McKeon gives her insight in our second video of our 5 part series.

Video Translation:

It starts out as fun for some people, you know? Experimentation.

But before you know it… There are reasons I was doing it and that most people do it to hide from other things. There’s an honesty that they’re not willing to have with themselves.

We’re all searching for something in this world. We don’t know what we’re doing here. We’ve landed on planet earth and we think “fuck, where what do I do now?”

Do I just buy a car, do I do drugs? Is my life pain? Is it joy? Is it […]

Changing the Conversation Around the Addiction Crisis in America

nging the Conversation Around Addiction

“Let’s be honest, we all go through our own struggles. We all have a hard time. And with me, yes, there were some bad choices,” Alvarado said.

“But I didn’t choose to be an addict. I didn’t want to live that way. And by no means, if I could’ve just quit these substances, I would’ve a long time ago. But you know what? If people could understand that this is more of a disease like diabetes or like cancer, there’s going to be more compassion for those individuals that are struggling and we can truly treat addiction as the public health issue it is.”


The Many Ways Alcoholsim Affects the Economy

How Alcohol Effects The Economy

Although alcohol consumption is usually viewed as an integral part of having a good time, drinking is one of the most damaging of all common American past times. Even if you think you drink in moderation, chances are that you’ve had a few too many once or twice. This can have more severe consequences than you may think.

Alcohol, although sold in nearly every grocery and convenience store across the nation, is indeed one of the most deadly drugs available for consumption. If you think having a few beers while watching a football game and kicking back with friends at a barbecue isn’t a big deal, consider the following startling alcohol […]

Characteristics of Children In Dysfunctional Families

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It is important for all of us to remember how impressionable children are. The environment children grow up in will play a huge role in how they live their lives.

In treatment, my counselor Howie Van, brought us through an exercise in which we went over the 4 roles of dysfunctional families.

Not all families are dysfunctional, but take a look at the 4 roles children play in these dysfunctional families, and be sure to let me know if any apply to you in the comments section.

  1. The Hero – This child provides the family with self-worth.
  2. The Acting Out / The Scapegoat Child – […]

5 Tricks To Strengthen Your Sobriety

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Recovery is a lifelong battle.

There is no report card or final grade. A life filled with long-term recovery is a life that will bring you happiness and joy. So much that it may leave you feeling undeserving of the gifts you have been given.

The trick to a lasting recovery is to constantly be growing. We must always be moving forward. If you are not growing, you are dying. This is especially true in recovery from drug and alcohol addiction, or addiction of any kind.

Over the years, I have learned a few tips and tricks that enable me to keep growing and keep moving forward. I would love to share my […]

Interview With Jeff Shane – Sex, Drugs and Rock & Roll

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Jeff Shane started as an employee in the mailroom, and eventually worked his way up to Vice President of Capital Records.

Jeff was given the gift of gab. He can talk to anyone about anything. In his recovery, he uses that gift to help newcomers and especially those facilitated at his H & I commitments.

Jeff gives us his story, and what it took for him to finally hit bottom and decide to get sober.

Jeff has lived and exciting and amazing life, and in this podcast he gives you great advice and insight for your recovery.

In this week’s episode, we will discuss…

  • what it took for Jeff to hit his breaking point.
  • What […]

Amy Atwater Shares Her Story And Her Relationship With Christ

Amy Atwater Shares Her Experience, Strength and Hope

August 15th I celebrated 6 years clean, sober and craving free. Craving free, that’s the miracle.

I went to drug rehab just prior to my 42nd birthday. I wanted to go to rehab. I was now in my 3rd marriage and my new husband was clueless about addiction. Prior to our marriage I told him that I’d die a drunk and a doper, take me or leave me, I was not going to change. But I was so burned out and I could see that my life style was wearing on him too. It was time to face my giant; a 30 year old giant.

I made a career […]

4 Types Of Alcoholics – Which One Are You?

4 Types of Alcoholics.Which one are you- Recovery Elevator Episode 36

According to a Time Magazine article – there are 4 types of drunks.

You are out with a bar with three friends. All four of you have had the same amount to drink. Yet, all 4 of you act differently when intoxicated. These 4 personally types are broken down by how alcohol affects them and their behavior.

  1. The Ernest Hemmingway drunk – This guy or gal can drink all day, and most people wouldn’t even know.
  2. The Mary Poppins drunk – Practically perfect in every way. Get’s sweeter and more attractive with alcohol.
  3. The Nutty Professor Drunk – They are natural introverts who shed their inhibitions […]

Massachusetts On the Forefront of Effective Opioid Addiction Treatment

It's Not A Crime To Be Addicted.-

The criminalization of drugs has led to the dehumanization of people who struggle with substance abuse, dependency and addiction.

In the United States, there is a conflicting view concerning drug addiction. On one hand, we recognize it as a legitimate illness for which there are respected and evidence-based treatments. On the other hand, we are quick to cast addicts in the role of conniving criminals who are plotting ways to use and abuse society and the people around them in order to score their next fix.

The truth is, drug abuse is a true epidemic of an illness that is sweeping the nation and the world. This is […]